the one mindset shift that can change your entire perspective on life that you probably have never thought OF Before
There is one mindset shift that most people never think of which can drastically improve all areas of your life. It can improve your relationships, your occupation and your studies in school. It is a simple, yet profound mindset shift that is used by highly successful individuals. This simple shift is just this: look at all things initially through the lens of similarity rather than dissimilarity.
What does this mean? It means that at first, look at how things are similar. Any things you are contrasting or comparing. Don't let your first question be "How are these things different?" Let your first question be "How are these things similar?"
Example: All human relationships have certain basic characteristics. Your relationship with your mother, father, son, daughter, co-worker, etc. are all different yes, but what characteristic(s) do all those relationships have in common? Trust. You will not have an effective relationship with anyone if you do not trust them and they do not trust you. Fundamentally then, when you are seeking out new relationships, don't focus on how this person is different from you, your spouse or your current friends; look at what is similar. You must build up trust so studying how to build trust and how to be a trustworthy person would be a beneficial thing to study.
In another area of life, schooling, the public education system does a fantastic job at making everything have it's own box and container. History is separate from math which is separate from chemistry which is separate from dance. Why? Focus first on what makes these things all similar instead of different. Many people bemoan the fact that they don't retain much of what they are taught in school. This problem could be largely remedied if students were taught how all the subjects link together rather than making them all different. As it stands now, if I am a history buff and am taking my math class, I am not shown how math and history go together. I am simply forced to do the same thing everyone is doing. The same goes the opposite direction. The math "nerd" is forced to take in history the same as everyone else. Why? Much greater success could be attained if we said to the history buff student "Tommy, you are going to write a paper on the history of mathematics. Who were the founders of Calculus, Geometry, and Algebra? When did these discoveries occur and what impacts did they have on the world when they happened?" He would research and learn the history of people like Sir Issac Newton, Archimedes, and Euclid. This would be focusing on the similarities between math and history. Reverse this for the math junkie. Have him crunch the real numbers behind Archimedes' theory of displacement and have him do experiments with Newton's Laws. This way, both students learn. How much do you think they will retain? What will their attitude toward education be? And why? Because they focused on how the subjects go together (are similar) instead of being told "Math goes in this box and history goes in that box".
When I say do this for all things I mean ALL things. Always focus on the similarities first then focus on the differences. This idea was born from combat and war. Would you rather be taught 50 different ways to use 50 different weapons (sword, spear, bow, arrow, knife, staff, gun, rifle, bayonet, cord, bomb, etc.) or 1 way to use all 50 weapons? Do you think it would be easier to "remember" how to fight using the 50 different ways or remembering only 1 way?
Warriors always focus on the similarities first. What do all humans have in common? Any attacker must have a brain. Destruction of this target ensures your survival. Focusing on how to destroy an opponent's brain is a common element of all human violence. From this then, learning how to protect your brain becomes very important since you just learned it is every attacker's primary objective. But the point is, why can it be EVERY attacker's primary target? Because anyone who is attacking you is going to have a head and in that head they are going to have a brain. So don't focus on how this opponent is different from that opponent; what do they all have in common? One thing is, a brain (among many others).
If you apply this to everything in your life, you will be radically transformed. It will simplify and defrag your life. Focus on the similarities, not the differences (at first). Their is a time and place for differences, but it is not the first thing. If you always seem to have poor romantic relationships, focus on the similarities of all those relationships. In the similarities you will find the most valuable lessons to be gleaned.
Live like a warrior by focusing on the similarities.
Live in the battleground,
The Warrior Speaker Blog is a collection of warrior lessons Alexander has learned in addition to practical information about protecting yourself and all that you deem most personal.