As a protector, I see it as my duty to help ensure that more and more people succeed. Success helps all of us. Success will protect more people. Failure will hurt more people. Those who fail and are desperate often turn to crime and immoral actions to achieve their success. As a protector, the more people I help succeed the right way, the less immoral actions to achieve success will be necessary.
I want to share today the one, sure-fire way to fail at life. It was said quite eloquently by the great comedian Bill Cosby.
I don't know the key to success but the key to failure is to try to please everybody. - Bill Cosby
This is a principle I have found to be true in my own life. When you think about it, it's simply about the numbers. With over 7 Billion people in the world, there is bound to be someone who doesn't agree with you, like you, etc. So trying to please everybody is a futile exercise. Get around people who support you, who believe in you, in the people who value things you value and don't worry about the "haters."
As a warrior, you will be faced with many decisions in your life that will take you down one path but not another. It will include some and exclude others and that's OK. That is called life. Warriors can and do make those tough calls because they know they must. If not you, then who?
Dare to be yourself and to laugh in the face of your critics. And always remember; if you don't have some people mad at you, it might just be because you don't stand for anything. I am not saying to take stands just for the sake of taking them. But if one of your core values has been violated and you feel it is appropriate, stand up for it. Dare to risk offending others. Do not fear their scorn. Trying to please them all is the surest way to ensure your own failure precisely because it will mean you take no stand on anything. In order to please all you must be completely neutral and even that will not make some people happy (for example: when someone explicitly asks you to take sides on an issue or relationship, saying "I'm neutral" will likely be taken as you not siding with them, which will make them unhappy).
The myth of neutrality holds so many people back because it makes them feel they can succeed and please everyone. You can't. It is a myth. You are actually failing while you think yourself succeeding. A truly fatal situation.
Be bold. Stand up for what you believe and always remember Bill Cosby: "I don't know the key to success but the way to failure is to try and please everybody."
The Warrior Speaker Blog is a collection of warrior lessons Alexander has learned in addition to practical information about protecting yourself and all that you deem most personal.